All about Soulmate Relationships

What are soulmate relationships?
Soulmate relationships are the sort of romantic relationships most of us dreamt of when we were young and innocent: loving and erotic, committed and inspiring and best of all - lasting. Soulmate relationships give both partners the fulfilment that deeply satisfies them and makes them feel that they have found the most wonderful person in the whole universe.

Is this description not a bit unrealistic given the current divorce rates?
The bad news is that genuine soulmate relationships are rare. The good news is that everybody who is seriously interested in living in such a relationship can learn how to do that. Soulmate relationships are not a gift from heaven that only a few people have the luck to receive, nor are they karmic connections which we are forced to live out. Instead, these relationships are based on four clear dynamics that can be recognised and implemented by everybody who is determined to have a wonderful relationship.

What are the dynamics of a genuine soulmate relationship?
The four dynamics are:

1. A commitment to love and to grow in love
2. The law of an even deal
3. Harmonious and erotic patterns between masculine and feminine energy.
4. The unavoidable merging-process of two people in a sexual relationship.

Do I have to be complete in myself before I can find my soulmate?
On the contrary, it is our very incompleteness that will attract our 'other half' and make our union delightful and intense. There is nothing wrong with having needs - they are actually the fuel that makes the fire of our union burn even more fiercely.
People who feel complete in themselves usually lose their desire for finding a partner and therefore they are less attractive for someone who wishes to experience intense emotional and sexual intimacy.

How do you know all that?
My knowledge about soulmate relationships and all their emotional, sexual and spiritual dimensions comes from four sources: I have worked as a counsellor with couples since 1990 and my main approach was family and systemic therapy. This therapeutic approach was complemented with the knowledge I gained through my intense engagement in Tibetan Buddhism and Taoist sexual practices. My deepest understanding, however, comes from living in a soulmate relationship with my husband for many years.

How can I find my soulmate?
There are the obvious things like going out or advertising in the "lonely hearts" columns. But much more important is the state of your mind and your understanding of the four basic dynamics of a soulmate relationship. Only if they are put elegantly into practice from your very first date can you expect the relationship to develop into a deeply satisfying soulmate relationship. There are two books I have written that explain everything you need to know.

• Soulmate relationships - Understanding them, finding them, keeping them
  (published by Piatkus Books)
  This book has three parts. The first part explains the four basic dynamics of soulmate relationships in detail and compares them with what is going on in ordinary relationships. Part two focuses on how to attract and find such a soulmate and gives advice on the practical level as well as on how to expand the power of your heart and mind. Part three explains the three stages all romantic relationships go through and how everyone can maintain a deeply satisfying relationship by putting the insights from part one into practice. It also contains chapters about constructive arguing and 'soulmate sex'
  
  Buy from Amazon

• How to find your soulmate - A story about finding true love' (published by Capall Bann)
  This book tells the story of Julia, who wants to find her soulmate. Julia meets Jane, a wise old lady in a palm-reading shop who explains to her all she needs to know about how to find a real soulmate with the technique of wish-practice. She also tells her a lot about men and women and how they can succeed in finding and maintaining deeply satisfying and erotically exciting relationships. But Julia is a sceptical woman. Always arguing, she only reluctantly puts Jane's advice into practice and experiences lots of hiccups and problems. Again and again Jane puts her right, often with humour but sometimes strictly as well. Finally Julia gets the hang of wish-practice and transforms from a deeply unhappy duckling into a beautiful swan.
  
  ISBN 1861631618 (available from Amazon soon)

Ulli is available for sessions, workshops, telephone-coaching, practitioner and teacher training and she runs meditation groups. Please contact her by calling 01435 874744 or emailing ullispringett@yahoo.com .

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